Be gentle to your beloved ones

To members of our family, either we used to shout at them or do not bother to respond to their requests. As we are too familiar with each other, we do not appreciate or cherish them.



Inside a convenience store, a woman shouted at her husband,"Can't you hurry up? You are worse than a woman!"


To her son who was selecting his drink, she yelled,"You better don't take so much cold drink!"

Then she turned around and spoke to the cashier softly,"Can you please put my purchase into two separate bags?"

Such scenario is vey common.


For example, the husband in the office is an active and talkative person. He is considered as a very humourous person and a livewire of any party by his colleagues.

Back home he is very quiet as though he is suffering from autism. He either with his eyes glued to the television or the newspapers, or worst still entirely closed his ears to his wife's talking.

To people with whom we are familiar, we forget that we need to have good manners. This attitude is wrong.


Be friendly to our colleagues will enhance the friendly atmosphere of the workplace. Be considerate to our friends will enlarge our interpersonal circle. Be respectful to our superiors will benefit our career. Be gentle to our beloved ones will promote harmony. Be considerate to our family will make life more pleasant. Many people ignore their relationship with their family which is the most precious relationship in the world.

Do you always shout at your mother,"I'm hungry! I want to eat now!"?

Do you always shout at your father,"I'm out of pocket money!"?

Do you always shout at your children,"You better be good! Don't let me lose face!"?

Wrong! Change your tone and your way of expressing yourself. You will receive a different response and you will enjoy a better life.

The suspicious squirrel

In the forest lived a pair of young squirrels, Jack and Jill. They built their home inside a hole of one of the tree trunks. To store up food for winter, both of them had worked very hard in collecting fruits which were gradually stacking up in their love nest.

Due to the hot weather, the fruits shrank in size. One day Jack on his trip of carrying fruits back to the nest, found that the quantity of the fruits had decreased.
He asked Jill,"We have been working hard in plucking the fruits for the coming winter, but why are you eating so much nowadays?"
Jill answered, "No, I never eat the fruits."
"The fruits obviously have reduced. Why don't you admit it?", unhappily Jack said.
Jill with her trembling voice said,"I .....never.....eat any."
Jack was so angry, he picked up the fruits and threw at his partner. He shouted,"Eat! Eat to your heart's content!"
Seeing this, Jill was very frightened, sad and helpless. She finally left the tree trunk home.

After a few days, there was a heavy downpour. The dried fruits on absorbing the rainwater became succulent. Now the tree trunk was full of fruits again. Jack realised that he had wrongly blamed his lover. But it was too late as Jill had left him.


#There must be trust to be together. Suspicion will only damage a relationship#

It is never too late to start

Many times we want to do something but we hesitated due to our age. In fact we should not think it this way.

I know of a lady who learned swimming at the age of 60. Finally she succeeded and this is beneficial to her health. Actually there is nothing that is too late to start.

We always tell ourselves that we want to learn or do something one day, but never get things started. We always give the lame excuse that we are too old to start. We should think that as long as we start doing we will be able to reap the fruits, especially when our life span has been lengthened with modern science. Never restrict our boundary of aquiring new skills and knowledge.

As long as we have tried, we should not regret whether the result is a success or failure. We can tell ourselves that we have at least done our best.

Blessing

After her university education in America, Julie found a good job there. The company treated her very well, offering her an attractive income. As a bachelor girl, she enjoyed a carefree life there.


Last year her mother in Malaysia suffered from cancer of the stomach. After operation, she was recuperating slowly. Immediately Julie asked for a transfer back to Malaysia. She rented an apartment and invited her mother to stay with her.


Julie is not the only child in the family. She has an elder sister and a younger brother. But she is the only one who gave up the life she was leading to undertake the responsibility of taking care of her mother.


Her elder sister and younger brother gave her some money as expenses for taking care of their mother. Other than this, both of them seldom come and visit the mother. As if by contributing some money, they have done their part as children.


Julie's friends felt that she should talk to her sister and brother regarding their duties. But Julie was very cool on this matter. She just said quietly,"Taking care of my mother is a blessing."

Hearing this, her friends were speechless. No wonder she has never complained. Patiently she searches for those recipes that are suitable for her mother's health and prepares the food for her. She cherishes her time spent with her mother so much so that she has no time to complain that she is tired or troubled.


Under Julie's care, her mother's once pessimistic condition is getting better day by day. Her will to live is getting stronger and stronger. She even gets out of bed to take a walk in the garden within the premise of the apartment.


The once heavy burden has now become a pleasant gift. Now whenever her friends encounter any difficulties or trouble, they will think of her words:"Doing a little more is a blessing". Sometimes jokingly they say these words among their circle of friends, but unconsciously the way they see things around them has changed. Good blessing is contagious!

I am really not bad

1. Tell ourself once everyday : I'm really not bad

2. Getting angry is to punish ourself with other people's mistakes

3. No friends in life is like no sunlight in life

4. Hopes for tomorrow will enable us to forget the miseries of today

5. If ideals, imaginations and fantasies are stripped off, then life is just an empty rack

6. You can also shine with brightness, it is not a monopoly of the sun

7. Wisemen use the heart to guard the body, fools use the body to guard the heart

8. To obtain happiness : cherish what you have, forget what you don't have

9. Greed is real poverty, contentment is real wealth

10. You can win the whole world with love, you can also lose the whole world with hatred